Subtle Signs, Serious Impact: What to Watch for During Holiday Visits

Every year, countless adult children come home for the holidays and sense that something has changed. The decorations may be in place and traditions observed, but underneath, something isn’t quite right. Bills are left unpaid, medications are out of order, and a once attentive parent may now seem forgetful or withdrawn.

It’s a situation many families don’t anticipate, but it often points to a deeper need for extra support.

Why Holiday Visits Matter

Phone calls and video chats help us stay in touch, but they don’t always capture the whole picture. When you’re present at a holiday visit, you may notice early warning signs that something is amiss, including:

• Piles of unopened mail or unpaid bills
• Confusion with prescriptions or missed medical appointments
• Noticeable mood swings, anxiety, or withdrawal
• Changes in hygiene or general housekeeping
• New “friends” are becoming financially involved

These signs may not seem concerning. Together, however, they could indicate cognitive challenges, social isolation, or potential financial exploitation.

A Proactive Response-Rooted in Care

If you come across these warning signs, it doesn’t mean you need to step in and take control immediately. Often, the best approach is rooted in empathy and collaboration. Consider:

• Framing the conversation as an offer of support, rather than a takeover:
“I’ve noticed some changes and just want to make sure everything’s alright.”
• Suggesting you review important legal documents together, such as powers of attorney or healthcare directives.
• Highlighting that taking action early is about preserving their independence and wishes, not diminishing them.

Most parents value this kind of assistance, especially when it’s delivered with respect and genuine care.

When to Bring in a Trusted Advisor

What should I do next? That’s completely understandable. You don’t need to have all the answers, but you do have access to support. Our team is here for Michigan families, helping assess existing legal protections, fill in any gaps, and create proactive plans that honor your loved one’s wishes.

Sometimes, this involves updatingpowers of attorney or trusts. Other times, it could mean taking steps to safeguard a home from long-term care expenses or clarifying medical directives. Whatever your family’s situation, we’re ready to help you take confident steps forward—before you’re faced with a crisis.

Let’s Make This Holiday Season One of Careful Support

Whether you’re returning to your childhood home or welcoming parents into yours, this season is a natural opportunity to check in on the people you love—and offer the protection they deserve.